We had a long weekend last week. Choo-choo went to sleep hours after bedtime both Friday and Saturday night despite all efforts to put him in bed sooner. He was so exhausted but fought it. After two busy days coupled with no naps, I thought for sure he’d sleep in Sunday morning.
He was up earlier than usual, crying and calling out for me. I went to see if he was okay, and he immediately started with, “Go back downstairs! Mommy go back downstairs!” I sat in his rocking chair for a little while, only to have to listen to repeated demands that I leave his room. Of course, when I finally gave up trying to calm him down and walked downstairs, he cried again. “Come back up, Mommy! Come get me!”
I was in a no-win situation, and I was not happy about it at all. But, of course, I went back to Choo-choo’s room, hoping to extract him from his bed and start our day.
Wrong again. “No come in here!” he screamed. I returned to the hallway only to hear him call me back. We went through this back-and-forth several more times.
While I did tell him to stop yelling at me, I did not tell him to stop crying. He is a tiny human capable of the same range of emotions that I am. He has every right to feel the way he feels, whether or not I understand why. After an hour and a half of being screamed and shouted at, I felt well on my way to dropping some tears of my own. And then he yawned. Yet he didn’t want to return to sleepyland either.
Nothing I do in these moments seems to help. I don’t have all the answers to life’s problems and especially to parenting problems. I honestly have no idea what to do when Choo-choo is in this kind of mood. I don’t appreciate him telling me what to do, but more than that, I would really like to be able to help him feel better.
Unfortunately, every word I say or thing I try is met with not only resistance but also screams, whines, and cries. I know when faced with this that he will eventually calm down enough and we’ll go about our day. It’s just so difficult to see my child distraught and not be able to help him because he won’t let me.