I hear this all the time from my son, along with many others. “Why you do that?” “Where you going?” “What’s that?” It’s a typical stage of toddlerhood, I’m sure. Only problem is, he often doesn’t wait for an answer.
I was making a cake for my husband to take to work. With every step of the recipe came the question from Choo-choo. “What you doing?”
Of course, I explained everything as I went along. My son, meanwhile, though looking in my general direction, was busy singing made up songs. I asked him if he was listening, to which he answered, “No.”
So why did he pepper me with questions? I wish I knew. This curiosity has recently been coupled with Choo-choo deciding he is not a big boy anymore but is a baby once again. Every time I tell him how big he is and how much he has grown, his answer is almost always “I not big. I little.”
He asks me to do everything for him now, stuff he wanted to do all by himself before. I tell him he is a big boy. He knows how to do it. I believe he can. Then he tells me “I a baby” or, more often than not, “NO!!! YOU DO IT!”
Yeah, I’m so not a fan of the second response.
He screams now when I refuse to do absolutely every single thing for him, but I’m raising him to be strong and independent. I comfort him when he cries but do what he asks me to only about twenty percent of the time. Occasionally, he does the task himself. Often, he just gives up or forgets about it.
With all I have learned these past three years about parenting, I still find myself without answers sometimes. But I do know that this journey of time with Choo-choo is a great learn-as-you-go experience, and he is teaching me more every day.