This week, we welcome an amazing woman who has faced some pretty hefty challenges and survived. She now shares her stories on her own blog and has been gracious enough to give us some great insights here as well.
Having a family is challenging in today’s world. There’s
appointments to keep, school and family events to attend, sports
(if your kids are into them), work, and so much more. This
multiplies with each child you have and if there are special needs,
this gets even more intense.
How is it possible to keep all of those things together and
still enjoy your life?
Keep a list. I have Evernote on my phone. It’s a great app (and no, this is not an endorsement) that is super simple. I have multiple lists that I can add to whenever I want. It helps me keep track of blog ideas and deadlines. I even use it for grocery lists. I also use a notebook as a backup for the important blog things in case my phone ever goes down.
Use a planner. I have a friend that is obsessed with planners and I joked on her about this for a while. It eventually caught on, though, and now I use one! I also use
the calendar in my phone, and update the planner weekly. This way everything is kept track of and I don’t have any worries if something happens to my phone. There are so many kinds of planners out there.
Keep a sense of humor and flexibility. If your life is like mine, things change often with little to no warning. It does get irritating, but keeping a sense of humor helps a lot. Laughing things off keeps things in perspective. I laugh until I cry a lot, because it keeps me from getting frustrated, angry, or extremely stressed. None of those feelings are productive towards getting through situations that require a lot of concentration.
Have a backup plan and/or people. I worked full time for years, and my mom and MIL were my backups. If a kid got sick, or someone needed to go to a school function that I couldn’t go to, one (or sometimes both) of them took care of that for me. I’m working as needed now (PRN in the medical world) so I can be there more for my kids, so my backup people aren’t needed as much, but I am glad I have them. I had a partial thyroidectomy a few months ago, and my mom was very helpful. I couldn’t speak very much for a few weeks so she handled that for me.
TAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF. You can’t take care of everyone else if you don’t care for yourself first! This can take the form of reading a book, listening to music, yoga,
meditation, pottery, painting rocks, whatever you choose. It just needs to be something you enjoy or want to try. This is so important.
Families need a well-rounded and happy person to keep
everything going as smoothly as they can. Why not make it
easier on yourself?
Social Media Information:
Wrae is a mental health and parenting blogger in Louisville, KY.
She is married and has three children, who are 12, 11 and 9. She
has a BA in Clinical Psychology from Spalding University.
When she is not writing, Wrae spends time with her family and
friends, or is reading and/or listening to a true crime podcast. She
also enjoys coloring in adult coloring books.